In my Color My World post last month, I featured a lovely floral top that I’d purchased at a well-known nationwide retailer. One of the commenters on the post, my blogging buddy Shelbee of Shelbee On The Edge mentioned that she had “just picked up the cutest cropped flare pants in an adorable floral” from the same retailer. I had also recently purchased a pair of floral crop pants from said retailer, and thinking back on the floral pants options I’d seen while shopping, her comment had me wondering if we’d bought the same item. And if we had, maybe a collaboration post would fun to put together.
I mused on this idea for a few days before reaching out to Shelbee. We had indeed bought the same pair of floral wide-leg crops and she was game for a collaboration where we would each show our styling spin for the item at hand. Then I shared with her my idea for a topic and asked if we could connect this with her weekly #SpreadTheKindness link up. Shelbee graciously agreed to all of my
demands suggestions although she said that she would take the opposite viewpoint on the topic. How awesome is she! Not only would our posts be “connected” by the item to be styled, our topics would align as well.
In my neck of the woods, we are already enjoying warmer temps so in my styling spin, I’m showcasing the bright and springy colors of the crops against a white eyelet top and the universal neutral, denim. These crops are the other pattern/color option for the ones I featured two weeks ago in Springing To Mind: Wide-Leg Crops.
Now onto the topic, does she or doesn’t she? That tagline for Clairol hair color products was intended to counter the stigma associated with dying one’s hair that existed in the late 50’s. Nowadays, there is no shame associated with altering your hair color and many choose to do so in a variety of colorful ways (pun intended). Now, the modern day dilemma for many women is related to the decision on when to stop coloring their hair (if ever) and to “embrace the gray”.
I’ve been getting the color of my hair enhanced for nearly 30 years, long before any gray started to appear, thinking the natural color to be a bit dull and lackluster. When I was pregnant a couple of decades ago, concerns related to the potential harm from hair dyes to a developing fetus had me switching temporarily to semi-permanent tinting a couple of times. In the last 10 years or so, the dying of my hair had become less about color enhancement, more about covering gray, and the time between touch-ups had shrunken to four weeks. The demarcation of my roots between weeks 3 and 4 would drive me nuts.
Precisely 8 weeks ago, on February 7 to be exact, after considerable thought and deliberation, I had my roots touched up for the last time. At that appointment, I wasn’t yet certain it would be the last but I’d made up my mind by the next time I was due to see Amy (my first featured A Woman I Know). I’d been thinking about it for several months and had done a little bit of reading on how to manage through the transition.
I’m now on the road to letting the gray grow out. In my approach, I decided to try some highlights to help camouflage against the contrast of gray roots to dark hair. I’m very pleased with the blond streaks and I think they’re helping me get used to seeing myself with lighter hair. I won’t be getting highlights done on a regular basis, perhaps every 3 or 4 months and taper off on them as well. With the length of my hair, it’ll probably take the better part of two years before the gray is all grown out. I’ve read that the toughest time in the transition is between months 3 and 6 so I hope my current resolve is strong enough to see me through.
Those of you familiar with Shelbee’s #SpreadTheKindness weekly feature and the link up may be wondering how does the decision to color or not color one’s hair connect with her message and mission to spread goodness and gratitude and love and kindness. Shelbee’s reaction to my decision to stop dying my hair was positive and supportive, all very much in line with the theme. However, she shared that she’s not ready yet to go that route and that’s perfectly fine with me.
There is no right or wrong when it comes to fashions and trends, whether it’s how we style our wardrobe or our hair. We are all trying to look the best that we can and be true to ourselves. Shelbee and I lead vastly different lives and yet, we can still connect through blogging, through our mutual love of fashion, and through the desire to support one another’s personal choices.
We didn’t discuss what our ensembles would be and as you see, we had very different and yet fabulous looks (all modesty aside). Shelbee’s outfit is far more edgy than mine which suits her so well. She is several inches taller than me so the proportions of a longer tunic that looks so marvelous on her would overwhelm me. And how freaking fantastic is the stripes and floral combo?
I’ll keep you posted on my progress with transitioning to gray. My research on going gray also lead me to find some resources about styling hair, specifically techniques for cutting that enhances and compliments a person’s natural curls. About 10 years ago, I finally learned to accept and embrace my curls but with the volume of hair that I have, it’s a struggle to keep it under control. I may have an update or two on that subject in the near future as well.
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